Purity #1 : Confess Your Sexual Sins

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Satan has long employed two culturally “correct” lies to prevent Christians from finding freedom from sexual sin.

Lie #1 :You are supposed to figure a way out of sexual sin yourself.

If you think you, on your own, can outwit Satan’s schemes, you must be on the level of Jesus. But, indeed, have you succeeded?

Interestingly, even the Son of God had a dozen men watching his life day in, day out, for three, straight years. Do you think He was not accountable to them?

As mentioned earlier in a Marg blog – “God has designed the church in such a way as to come alongside and support and encourage you in the fight. We need one another for such an important task.” As a Christ-follower, if you have been watching or fantasising about impure images or been involved in sexual immorality, you would not want one soul to know it. But if you claim to have any part in the kingdom of God, the word of God is your authority even in the area of confessing sins.

It is only in this context that James 5:16 and many other verses that show a counter-culture of bringing sins into the light, make sense:
1 John 1:9,
Prov 28:13,
Eph 5:10-12 and
Acts 19:18.

Lie #2 :You have to portray yourself as strong, not weak.

This one from the depths of hell directly contradicts God’s Word – the Bible says we are weak sinners (1 Tim 1:15-16), who will use our deceptive hearts (Jer 17:9) to wiggle out of any situation that will remotely make us lose face before other people.

Confession comes easier if you dwell upon the One who justifies you, no matter what anyone else might think about your sin.

If you know that Jesus Himself is the one who justifies you, your advocate on the big day when God will call everyone to be accountable, why do you fear exposing your sin before mere men? Should you not instead be saddened that you may have put people above obedience to Jesus?

What is there that Jesus does not know already? It’s time to throw aside attempts to build your false reputation. Jesus condemns hypocrisy, and his church is never helped by it.

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Get up. Speak up. Begin your walk to freedom.

The Christian faith is lovingly ruthless and unbelievably practical. Sin needs to be brought to light, pretty much how the mouth needs to be opened for the dentist to pull out the rotting tooth. What would you think of the patient who thinks that the solution to unbearable toothache is to not reveal the pain to his family?

What would you say to the man who doesn’t want to go to the dentist because he thinks revealing the fact that he has toothache is shameful?

Confession of sin to one another is a command Christ expects every follower of His to obey. Remember that sexual impurity, like any other sin, will keep a choke-hold on your life until you humble yourself by obeying God in confession.

HOW TO CONFESS?
I encourage you to prayerfully find brothers who are themselves eager to fight this sin, and who can be trusted with confidential matters.
Tell such a person how they can pray for you specifically– details like how often you sin, and the ways in which you are tempted; help the other person pray. There is no need to reveal the explicit details to them (like website names or descriptions) of what you’ve exposed yourself to. Let’s not unwisely cause damage to someone else (Gal 6:1) .

Some results of confession of sin are much joy before God and the beginning of freedom.

Even before becoming a part of Margfamilies, I had the privilege of having dear brothers holding me accountable about sexual purity. Between 2006 and 2011, at least eight men in the various Christian fellowships I had been part of, were my accountability partners.

I am thankful for the brothers in Marg too, who have the freedom to ask me questions about what my eyes see each day or week, and whether I have been walking in sexual purity or not.

Resources –

1. A man’s life of sexual sin has corrupted his family. His wife wrote this poem.

2. Five clear reasons why we need accountability.

3. If you’re not able to find a Bible-believing church community, I recommend this free course to fight sinful sexual addiction. ‘Way of Purity usually provides an online mentor who can pray for you- and can hold you accountable. Eventually they will ask you to find a believer in your locality, but it’s not a bad place to begin with.

Sexual Purity: Failing To Plan, Is Planning To Fail

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Marg’s latest post, the one about assumptions in a new marriage, left me thinking about how fellow brothers in Christ – both married and single- are equipping themselves to fight lust.

God’s design is that those who have been rescued from the penalty of sin – hell- by Jesus’ priceless sacrifice, would reign in life, live in victory over sin (Rom 5:17).

But, is your life one of daily, sexual purity?

Or are you a Christ-follower who needs to take time late in the night, go to your mobile phone or laptop and open things that Christ would hate outright?

Do you take pleasure in immoral content which you would rather not let your wife know about, lest she weep herself to sleep?

Would your private browser history make your non-Christian friends snigger at you and mock your Saviour and His bride, the church?

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Secrets do run out.

I am not talking about just pornography here.

All things immoral, from sex with someone who’s not your wife, impure physical contact, to thinking about other women’s bodies, even for an instant, is condemned by Jesus himself (Matt 5:27-28). Also remember that if God’s enemy enslaves me using certain regular TV channels, he will use such usual, “smaller”, “unavoidable” sins to wreak havoc in my life.

I know personally the beast that sexual sin can be – this sin can return to steal and destroy life as we know it, when we do not guard ourselves.

We have strategies for what is most important to us. Is sexual purity important enough for you?

Or are you willing to keep playing with the very things that your Saviour paid with His life for?

But how is one supposed to even begin making a battle plan in a world that is packed with billboards, sexually charged commercials, TV shows, websites and movies designed to titillate men?

STEP #1. Trust the Bible and bring your secret sin to God AND to someone in your church community.
Lie #1 : You are supposed to figure a way out of sexual sin by yourself.
Lie #2 : You have to portray yourself as strong, not weak; so, do not confess.

STEP #2. Jot down the most common ways in which you fall into sexual temptation. Create a plan to avoid all such tempting situations. No, it’s not impossible.

STEP #3: Starting now, in different ways, remind yourself of the good news by which you have been given new life, the very life of Christ.

Marg Families will feature a post on each step in the coming weeks. You can share from your experience in the comments- I would love to learn from them.

Further resources for anyone, who’s interested –

Here are seven good reasons to stop looking at impure images right now.

If you thought pornography was bad, I bet you didn’t know how bad it really is.

My Christian Marriage : Assumptions and Realities

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Barely one month before our marriage, Sheetal and I went through some really hard times. I soon realised that I was yet to know much about my future marriage-partner, much less about the unexperienced, uncharted “World of Marriage”. I didn’t want to be foolish by staying in the dark.

So I began asking questions, reading books and discussing different practical aspects of marital life with experienced folks in my church family. I appreciate everyone who played an important role in our marriage, especially both our parents, my sister, our church family in Wanowrie and in Pune at large, and various other people who genuinely cared for where we were at.

But those days, my cry used to be : “Can someone just honestly share their new marriage experience in a blog or a book, PLEASE!

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Marriage is deeper than candle-light dinners.

Nearly 7 months into my marriage now, which I am sure qualifies us to counsel the World-Wide Web, Sheetal and I share some of our individual assumptions and reality-checks about our marriage: Continue reading “My Christian Marriage : Assumptions and Realities”

13 Signs You Are Neck-deep In The Indian Christian Sub-culture

Subculture : A group of people within a culture that differentiates itself from the larger culture to which it belongs. (Wikipedia)

India has so many subcultures; groups that have their unique characteristics and sometimes curious traditions. I could be identified as someone belonging to a certain Bible-believing, urban, Christian subculture. My subculture has its good and its bad and it’s funny. Here is a funny take on some of our quirkisms. Apologies if this hurts anyone- no offense, ok? 🙂

1) The word “ministry” has got to do more with pastors and missionaries than with the words ‘Defence’ or ‘Magic’.

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2) When you hear the name Louis Pasteur, you think he is a pastor in your city, not a dead scientist.

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3) No longer are angels, those chubby winged infants propped up in cathedrals- they are fiery creatures you would rather not meet in a hurry.

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4) You are deemed intelligent if you know your state’s current Chief Minister’s name.

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Continue reading “13 Signs You Are Neck-deep In The Indian Christian Sub-culture”