Yesterday I lambasted my wife over the phone. She was handling our child who was unwell and could not see why I had to work late that day. In response to her demand that I come home early, I downloaded upon her the misery of a heated argument.
I don’t say this with pride. I wish I had tears of sorrow that Jesus had for my sin. Instead, I was blasting the most beautiful person in the world I know, while she was toiling faithfully, handling a crank-athon infant and bearing pummeling construction noises from next door. Instead of displaying our beautiful Lord Jesus in my words, I had decided to send across some verbal pummeling.
Probably your aim is to conquer your graduation with good marks, and/or to work and become financially self-sustaining. While you have a gala of a time doing all that, you also know the next stage in life is probably the dreaded,
M-word : Marriage.
Knowing that God is the creator of marriage, you have had some hopes of finding that one person in life to get married to. Your desktop wallpaper has one of those dreamy “God has plans for you and blahaa blahaa” quotes with some young Western character staring deep into the sunrise in a green field.
(Married folks, try to remember how life was for you before you met your spouse).
But it has been years on end now, hope is like an aeroplane that makes a loud noise on the runway but somehow never takes off. Meanwhile at least one person you meet, in the week or the month, asks you that question –
“So, when are you getting married?”
You, then, experience the following range of emotions:
– The desire to throw your helmet at them.
Barely one month before our marriage, Sheetal and I went through some really hard times. I soon realised that I was yet to know much about my future marriage-partner, much less about the unexperienced, uncharted “World of Marriage”. I didn’t want to be foolish by staying in the dark.
So I began asking questions, reading books and discussing different practical aspects of marital life with experienced folks in my church family. I appreciate everyone who played an important role in our marriage, especially both our parents, my sister, our church family in Wanowrie and in Pune at large, and various other people who genuinely cared for where we were at.
But those days, my cry used to be : “Can someone just honestly share their new marriage experience in a blog or a book, PLEASE!”
“I don’t think it’s wrong that I date or marry this person who is not a follower of Christ. I am convinced God wants me to marry this person.”
Have you not heard these words before? Have you said these words or felt them yourself?
Indeed, what is wrong if a follower of Christ falls in love with someone who is not? Probably this non-believer is a very good friend… someone who understands you like almost no one else can. They are compatible with you, have a very good-nature and in their behaviour, they even beat Christians! So, is it wrong to date a non-Christian like that?